How do you set yourself up to grab opportunities when they come?
I always talk about a spirit of Urgency and Readiness.
But, I will be the first to tell you that I’m not always feeling any of those! Ha However, in order to grab opportunities that come in an instant, you have to be prepared to show up. You have to be present.
You have to be intimately aware of your abilities and have the confidence to perform in them.
So… in order to SET YOURSELF UP for OPPORTUNITIES, you have to first believe that they will come.
Your FAITH in the inevitable is the first course of action. Just BELIEVING will create a list of new steps to get you ready.
Wake Up. Faith Up. Show Up. Work Hard. Be Ready.
My family treats me like an outsider just because I’ve been traveling the country to live out my dream. Now that I’m back, I feel left out and useless.
Hi there, Dreamer,
I congratulate you for moving about the country to follow your heart and dreams. It takes a lot of courage
and work to live out any passion! It also requires sacrifice—in your situation—not being able to personally see the evolution of your family is a huge sacrifice.
I am curious as to what your family does that precipitates feelings of being left out and useless. It sounds painful. No one wants to feel useless.
Are you being left out of family activities? Being looked over when it comes to certain responsibilities? What?
I’m not sure about the time period of your absence or the conditions before you left to pursue your dream, but, I am certain that it is natural for all of us to do what is necessary to fill in gaps.
Since your absence, it sounds like your family has created new ways to operate.
They have filled in the space that was left when you decided to leave. They have new roles. Perhaps even new additions to the family.
They have figured out how to maneuver and manage their lives without your physical presence. This is to be expected, however, it may cause unintentional pain.
I will assume that your family loves you dearly and that they don’t intend to hurt you by leaving you out. But for you to understand and get the answers you seek, you need to ask.
If you are feeling useless, discuss with your family your desire to contribute. However, be mindful and don’t expect old roles and old habits to be automatic.
As you have grown and your needs have shifted over time, so too has your family’s.
Expecting things to be the same as before you left is a setup for disappointment.
Be honest about your feelings. Be clear about specific ways you want to be brought back in to the routine of family.
Discuss your desire to be reintegrated. What do you need to feel safe and a part of the family again? Let them know.
Remember though, it’s not just about you.
Make sure that you also pay close attention to the current needs of your family members as well.
Gain an accurate picture of what the family is and what it will be like with you stepping back in.
At the end of the day, if constructive conversation and talks on collaborating on new roles fall short of your expectations— accept it.
Do your best to Love your family as they are and look for new opportunities to show them that you are present with love.
It may be challenging, but you are a dream chaser! You can tackle anything.
Why is it so hard to see oneself through other’s eyes. For instance, others might see me as beautiful, intelligent and successful but it is difficult for me to believe that about myself.
I like to say a broken mirror still reflects.
Right now, it sounds like you have some broken pieces that you are trying to mend. I get it.
There are moments in all of our lives that we don’t feel our best. But the great thing is that no matter how we feel, the truth will always stare back at us even if we can’t see it.
People tell you that you are beautiful, intelligent, and successful, because you are. It is evident in the narrative that you live.
Unfortunately, no one can make you believe your own story.
Somewhere, somehow, you stopped listening to the wonderful things that your spirit whispered to you and traded them for the not so pleasant things that sometimes our cruel world feeds us.
I’m not sure of your story, but I do know with practice and diligence, you too can believe the great things you hear about YOU. It’s natural for me to want to tell you that what you believe is nonsense.
But somehow, these negative thoughts make sense to you.
The only way you are going to believe that you are AMAZING is by teaching yourself to recognize the untruths you now believe.
This will take practice and you can do it.
You are a caterpillar in the cocoon of esteem, and with practice, affirmations, and the rejection of untruths, you will soon grow wings and recognize that you were destined to be a butterfly.
Fly, oh beautiful one. Fly!
How does one financially prepare and afford to travel for a few months without hurting any current financial obligations?
Hi Future Traveler! Sounds like someone is ready for an adventure! Go YOU!
So with any decision, you have to plan or at the very least assign priorities. If you want to travel, there are a number of things that you must consider. Money as you state is a BIG priority.
If you don’t have a trust or have a tremendous amount of money saved, then you need to start saving.
Otherwise, you have to be creative at finding financial resources. Does that mean you sign up to teach English in a foreign country?
Does that mean you sign up for the Peace Corp?
You have to decide what you are willing to do to get where you want to be.
No matter what decision you make, there will be sacrifices that you have to make.
If you are deciding to save, you may have to slash some budget items.
Perhaps lose the cell phone or stop drinking Starbucks. Do whatever you need to do to save enough to cover bills and your vacation.
Or you can always give up everything and start over when you return.
You make that decision.
What opens up when you pay attention to your response to what’s happening around you?
Let me tell you the secret to life: It is actually LIVING!
When you open up and pay attention to your responses from the internal and external events around you, your awareness awakens.
And when the act of awareness is taken seriously, it creates and opens up opportunities to make better decisions in your life.
My question for you: What do you want to see? What are you looking to understand?
Keep those questions in the forefront of your brain and you will soon be able to recognize the answers.
But eventually, there comes a point in all of our lives where responding isn’t enough.
At some junction, we must make it a priority to create.
If you have an opportunity, work to create experiences that align with what you seek in life.
Awareness is great. Action always is better.
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